Dear Wise Old Owl

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Dear Torn in Two,

The first thing that strikes me with your situation is the fact that he is calling you immature but refuses to acknowledge you at school. This is hypocritical.

With that said, I need you to think back to two weeks ago and be honest with yourself. Did anything out of the ordinary happen? Is anyone else saying you are acting in an immature way? If the honest answer is “NO,” this is definitely a “him” problem not a “you” problem. I know that doesn’t fix things, but he obviously cannot communicate his real feelings to you and is trying to put the blame on you for something he cannot articulate or doesn’t want to articulate.

This is not okay, and it is not the basis for a healthy relationship. Let it go. Move on. Find someone who appreciates you and all your thoughts and ideas. Do not try to work things out with him. If it was truly meant to be, he will find you and discuss his thoughts and intentions.

Hope you end up happy,

WOO

Dear Wise Old Owl,

I am currently a junior and my boyfriend is a senior. We got together last May, and I thought things were going well. We hung out together at school and at my house. He was chill with my parents and friends.  Then, two weeks ago, out of nowhere, he started telling me that I was acting immature. He started constantly picking on everything I suggested we do and every opinion I had to offer. We ended up in a huge fight and he walked out. 

I haven’t spoken to him since, but we go to the same school, so I see him all the time. He literally sees me and turns around to walk in the opposite direction.  It is so obvious that he is avoiding me. I want to talk to him and ask him why he is acting the way he is. So, my question is, should I try to work things out with him?

Sincerely,

Torn in Two